Get over yourselves boys!

Two of my best friends got engaged on the weekend and I’m stoked for both of them. They’re made for each other and it’s very obvious to anyone who sees them that they dearly love each other. The engagement was extravagant and very clearly an expression of his love for her. I’m not going to post the details out of respect for their wishes and so as not to make anyone feel bad. The one details that I am going to post is that he was given a very nice guitar by his bride-to-be. I think this is just awesome.

The other thing is that in the church that they attend all of the boys have started saying to their fiances or their wives, “Where’s my guitar hey?” I’ve got to admit that I had harboured some of those thoughts too. I had a bit of “Hey, where’s my James Morrison signature series trumpet?” and was feeling a bit discontent.

I think the best thing about the bible is that God has this knack of speaking to us through it just when we need it. Right when I needed to hear it, I was flicking through the bible this morning on the train into work and God took me to Ephesians 5 which strangely enough is one of the relationships chapters. The bit God specifically smacked my wrist with was this

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor—since they're already "one" in marriage.
Ephesians 5:25-28 MSG

So in closing, boys go out of your way to show your girl you love her, don’t worry about getting back. Once you’re married you bless yourself through blessing her. I can’t remember where I heard this, it might have been a 96.five wisdom bite, but it said for guys if you want to go out with your mates, spend time with your wife. If you want something then make sure your wife has everything she needs and more. Now I’m not saying that you should go and work the system and that the only time you should spend time with your girl is so that she’ll let you go out with the boys. The girls are smarter than that guys, she’ll see through it! That’s just the way it works though! If she’s happy then your girl will want you to be happy too! It’s great!

So get over not getting a guitar or something big for your engagement, that’s not what it’s about. Heap love on your girl, let her know she’s beautiful and that you cherish her. You’ll be surprised what happens when you do it God's way!